STOP INTERNALIZING FAILED ROMANTIC PURSUITS

It’s not your fault you’re a lover in a loveless world.

Why are you blaming yourself for opening up and giving somebody a chance to show up for you properly in a connection? Too many people are internalizing this specific type of shame from bad relationship experiences and bad things that other people do to you. We shouldn’t be feeling ashamed for pursuing a loving, genuine connection that ultimately doesn’t work out. There’s this underlying message of “I’m not respecting myself enough if I keep getting let down in relationships” but that’s so unhealthy and out of your control. You’re human, of course you’re going to want to keep pursuing connections, but it’s not always your fault if people keep disappointing you, sometimes we forget how inherently risky and painful giving your heart to somebody is and it’s one of the bravest, most vulnerable things you can do in a world that’s obsessed with status, lust, and validation. It’s not your fault you’re trying to find something real and beautiful in such a dark and lonely world.